As we continue in the Community Pathway, this one will become very apparent as you continue engaging with the community, growing in your happyness and wellness. Yes, it’s exactly as it sounds. Your friends as well as your family will start to create a tribe of people that are your continued connection to the community.
Just think about it for a moment. Who do you talk to every morning? Check your phone and who is in your recent text messages? Who do you make plans with for trips, retreats, holidays and special events?
Your family will always be your family and some of them will automatically be in alignment with your intentions for health and wellness and so won’t – and that’s OK! Remember, you can’t choose your family, but you can choose your friends. Choose wisely!
For example, when I spent a year in Geneva with my ex husband, and it was the last year we were together, I yearned for my family. Also because I was completely disconnected from my country, my people, my community, everything. Actually, at the time, and I know better now, I was following my husband who wanted to leave our country and be with someone else. If only I had known earlier, I would NOT have left. But hind sight is always clearer… So for me, that year I spent meeting new people and making all sorts of new friends around activities like scrapbooking (Yes, I used to teach at the time!) and traveling and of course, chocolate and visiting swiss chocolate making places. Oh, the fun!
So, when we started the divorce, I had exactly three months to find a job, since I was an American and my ex husband was German, or I had to go back to the states. At first, I wanted to stay and tried everything possible to get a job until one day I just knew that I had to leave. It was a big smack in the face but it was the only way to move forward and so I put my dog on the next flight and then I got a ticket on the same flight. First of all moving to Europe is a massive undertaking, so after a year moving home, was a snap. Everything fell into place, I gave away all the plants, stored all my furnishings, packed lots of clothes and my computer and got on a plane. My mother and my cousin were there to greet me and I was a complete MESS. So, I know what it’s like to create a Framily over and over again since I’ve been in so many different places over my lifetime. I even had to do this when I was recruited to work in Silicon Valley after college and it turned out to be one of the best times of my life, and also where I met my ex husband. So, it’s fitting that I came back home, back to ZERO.
Even now, as I continue to share, teach, advocate and experience so much healing I continue to meet amazing people and through Facebook, and social media my own tribe continues to form with so many outlets for my work and play.
Take a look around you and who to do you trust? Who do you love? Who makes you laugh? Who do you want to spend time with? And know that you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be in life when you have gratitude for everything little thing around you and bless the space you call home.