8;2 Happyness Path for Breast Cancer Survivors: #VanityVanishes #BCAM

Another step on this journey for those directly affected by breast cancer is how your vanity may vanish during therapy and as a survivor.

First of all, if and when you are diagnosed, the first thing you notice is that your breast is constantly out for all the doctors to see and for good reason.  At some point, however, you will see that your vanity may diminish for your breasts as they can start to feel “as out there” as your elbows.  I will never forget living in California years ago and a friend of mine had just returned from breast implant surgery and first of all, she had zero vanity compared to me.  She made me feel overly conservative as she would walk around the house sometimes stark naked and she is the one that said her breasts were just like her elbows.  There was not shame in her body at all.  She was a great friend and I learned so much from my entire experience in California, but I digress.

So, think of your breasts as your elbows!  They are beautiful and there is no shame in having to lose your vanity during breast cancer therapy.

If you have to go through chemotherapy that knocks out your hair this includes ALL of your hair on your entire body.  From the hair on top of your head to your eye brows, under arm hair, bikini area and even legs, it will be completely gone.  At first it may seem scary to lose your hair but there are so many ways to enjoy this season, because remember, it will be back soon enough when the chemotherapy is complete.  Sometimes I’d wear a wig or nothing at all!  Then, I started to get wigs that fit my mood and even multi colored wigs just for fun.

For your eye brows and even eye lashes, you have a choice to draw in eye brows with a pencil and glue on gorgeous eye lashes in a pinch.  It’s so simple.

And the best part is not having to shave the rest of your body hair, so take the razors out of your shower for the time being.  Enjoy being hairless for the time being.  I remember, when I lost my big curly hair that I vacuumed it from my bed and the bathroom and then put all the shampoos and conditioners away in another bathroom so that I wouldn’t even see or miss them!  Getting ready was so quick.  It took me minutes to shower, and then throw on a wig while running out of the house.  And when I was complete with my therapy, I donated all the wigs back to my infusion center so that others who would be losing their hair could keep using them.

And finally, for me, being on chemotherapy, steroids and even chemopause meant I started to gain weight instead of losing weight, which is what I figured would happen at first.  And by now, I just wanted to be comfortable, so as my clothes didn’t fit, I started wearing clothes out of my mothers closet!  Why not, she had great basics in a larger size and I didn’t want to buy a new wardrobe, so I just made use of what was in the house at the time.  I was just thrilled to be alive every single day and I wasn’t about to let my size stand in the way of my happyness!

Every day we have the choice to make each moment amazing and to find happyness from within.  How are you choosing to live today?