7;7 Advocacy for Life for Wellness+Happyness #advocacy4life

We come to the end of our journey and it’s been a great ride.  As the final pathway is realizing the community, Advocacy for Life is something you and I do every day but most just don’t realize it.  Advocacy is advocating for those that don’t know what they don’t know.  You and I don’t know what we don’t know, but someone in our path does.  And when you see with new eyes, because you’ve experienced something special or different, then you will find others that have that may not want to know just yet, but soon, or even need it now.  THAT’s when you advocate for them by sharing your own experience so that they can take what they need and continue on their own journey.  It’s a give and take.  You are experiencing new ideas every day and you also take what you need to know.  Nothing is permanent and nothing is YOURS.  It all belongs to US.  WE are part of a fabric that weaves us all together and passing it on is a blessing.  Don’t hold anything back!  That only hurts you in the end and it’s only your ego trying to make you feel super special, when deep down inside you already KNOW that you are special.  And the more you can share, educate, speak, do and just be yourself, the more you are advocating for a better life for the planet.  OK – to big.  Sorry, let me back up.

In the micro environment, it’s all about you and sharing  your gifts with others.  Invite them to join you.  Share the details you’ve experienced.  Be open and honest.  For example, I get messages from friends I’ve met once years ago who need to connect their friend who was just diagnosed with breast cancer to me.  And I lovingly gladly accept the opportunity to meet with them, talk to them, text with them hope and love for their upcoming journey giving them insight and wisdom I’ve gained through my experiences, education and scholarship.

If we all reached out to each other in situations besides the life or death ones, then the world would be a better place.  So, my job is being close to intense situations and life altering experiences and I gladly accept.

Now on the macro level, more and more people are put in these positions as the levels of cancer incidence rise.  So, for each person that is diagnosed with cancer, they represent an entire community and the transformation that this person typically takes will reach numerous others for the rest of their lives.  Life situations reveal your true depth and your truest self which is centered on love.  The faster we can all accept that we are 99.9999% the same the faster we can transform the world.  Starting with your self, your love, and your life is the where you can join the river of love.

7;6 Awareness & Engagement for Wellness + Happyness #7happypaths

Awareness and Engagement for Wellness and Happyness is when you find a tribe or nonprofit or group of people in the community that feel comfortable to be around and you feel that they understand you.  You have become aware of an issue, say Breast Cancer and have become engaged with a nonprofit that promotes healing through connection.  My example continues today as there are so many different nonprofits that all serve one separate degree of difference between each other but yet are so vast in their offerings that I can’t HELP but be engaged!  And that engagement promotes my own internal wellness and Happyness.  Let me try to pick some top examples for you!

Since I was diagnosed prior to turning forty years old, I naturally gravitated towards other young women who were having the same experience and that led me directly to the Young Survival Coalition.  Plus, I wanted to share the knowledge that all the other nonprofits had but no one knew about to other young women.  I was also volunteering with the Girl Scouts and soon was introduced to the program director for the Aeros Indoor Hockey League and they were looking for a nonprofit in which to make a donation.  That’s when I proposed that YSC be the recipient and together we created a festival of breast cancer nonprofits to share and promote awareness to the people attending the game.  There was even a silent auction, VIP sponsorships and Road Trip Tour on the bus, a Pink Gloved Survivor Flash Mob, and the largest Pink Gloved Hand Dance ever in the Toyota Center during the game!  Plus, the night before I served as the advocate with a big crown hat while Roberta, one of the original founders of YSC served as the Healthcare Representative and Mom as we gave a presentation to a large group of young girl scouts during their sleepover to promote awareness of young women getting breast cancer.  Together we raised funds to help support YSC in their efforts to create and send free of charge educational materials to those that were newly diagnosed, metastatic and survivors.

Once you become AWARE of a nonprofit that has helped you or seen it help someone you know, then it’s up to you to ENGAGE in their offerings.  They always need funds, volunteer support, advocacy support, board support, attendance at their events, or even a share on FB to get to the people that need them the MOST.

What do YOU care about the most?  Children? Animals? Research? The Forest?  Find a nonprofit that has a mission that you can grab onto and then see what they are like by sending a starter donation of say $10 or $100 or go and attend on their events and meet the others that also care about their mission.  Growing through this community path starts with YOU, but it ends with WE. Together WE can do more.

Before you know it, you are so engaged with helping others that you are becoming more and more well and happy!  Of course, there is balance in life so take your time.  Researching is fun.  Attending cool events is great to meet others like you.  And remember your TIME is more valuable then any donation.

7;5 RECYCLE Blessings for Wellness+Happyness #love #7happys

Continuing on this pathway developing your community for wellness and happyness we come to Recycling Blessings.  Because if you’ve made it THIS far, then you have become abundant and may be stockpiling love, joy, energy, things, stuff, friends, happyness, and any other richnesses.  Now is the time to SEND those babies off to whom needs them most!  Recycling blessings only sends you more happyness in return.  THIS IS THE SECRET.

Avoid trying to save that thing or idea or love nugget for the future, because the future is right NOW!  Remember you are in a RIVER of LOVE and if you keep stockpiling all those love nuggets then you will eventually build a dam and stop the flow.  Resist the urge to pack it up like a squirrel does for the fall.  NO NEED.  Here’s your mantra:  There is MORE where that came from – There is MORE where that came from.

As a cancer survivor I was constantly receiving gifts and freebies and invitations to this and to that and at first I thought, OH, this is for me?  Serious?  cool!  And before I knew it I had a closet full of stuff that I never used or needed as I flew through cancer therapies.  Until finally I started taking all those loving items people made or shared or created for us survivors and started giving them to all the other survivors I met and advocated for.

At one point, without any income and needing a wig to cover my baldness, since I am truly a Girly GIRL, I was about to purchase, with all the money in my bank, a $300 wig.  It was short and at the time I was teaching pilates and felt it was time to wear one and keep the focus on class and not me.  I decided to wait another day before purchasing it when I showed up to get my next round of chemotherapy and found that there was a chest of drawers hidden in the corner of the infusion room.  After talking to everyone there, I was curious to see what it was and it was full of hand crocheted blankets, hats and items from the local church and a small bag with brown hair hanging out.  I opened it up and out pops a wig that looks ALMOST EXACTLY like the one I was about to purchase, but BETTER!  I tried it on and everyone in the room comments, That’s looks GOOD Sandy!  Looking in the mirror it DID look good and it was close to my original shade of brown hair.  Looking around, I said, well, do I take it?  Is it Free?  Do I ask the nurse?  And everyone looks around and says, TAKE IT!  All of that stuff is donated for us.  Another lady says, And when you’re done with it, maybe return it for someone else to use.  I Lit up like a CHRISTMAS tree!  I didn’t have to spend all my dollars to get a wig after all, because someone else had recycled their own blessing.

When I was done with all of my therapies, I didn’t want to part with my Kim Kardashian wig, but I made a point of taking the first one I had purchased, and the others that had been donated BACK to the Infusion Center and put them in the chest of drawers for others to find.

Then, I started sharing with others about the wigs and found that survivors were driving all over town looking for their perfect recycled blessing!  Plus, in the waiting room one day there was a lady with multiple brain tumors and she just looked sad, as I held the door for her to enter since she was in a wheel chair.  And as we started talking she said her name was Sandra, and so I said, That’s my name and then my mother says, We are the THREE Sandy’s!  And by now I saw that the waiting room also had cabinets full of literature and then I noticed an older grey wig when I suggested that she try it on.  Oh, NO! I wouldn’t dare she said as she shook her head.  Then, everyone in the waiting area was looking at nudging her on to try it on.  I wish you could have seen her face as we helped her put it on and she grew instantly like a massive sunflower opening up to the SUN!  It was PERFECT for her and she immediately looked happyer and even more WELL.  THAT”S what Recycling blessings is all about.  Pass it on.