7;4 Building BRIDGES w/Full-FILLment for Wellness+Happyness

In my professional and personal life, I stumble upon opportunities to build bridges for wellness and happyness.  Let me explain:  When you can see somewhere you want to go but it’s far far away and they are over there waiving at you, but there is a marsh or even a deep cavern in between you both.  Have you see this before?  You’re like, what the HAIL? How exactly am I supposed to get over THERE?  That could take a lot of time but it would be worth it.  Flying is a magical experience to meet half way, but ultimately you may need to return to your side to create an easier path for deeper communication.  Thus, the BRIDGE needs to be built and someone has to go find middle ground – someone has to go first.

I imagine the first pier being poured into place so that each side can have a foundation in which to connect to from each side, like building a bridge.  That first pier is always the hardest.  Someone usually gets dirty in the process but there is always a silver lining.  It’s just a new experience.  Going somewhere you haven’t been before.  It ALWAYS looks worse than it really is.  Getting over the fear takes time.  Then, before you know it, you’re there in the space between and guess what?  There are other ideas and connections being made to promote even more bridges from that point, because you are not alone.  You just couldn’t see anything from your original vantage point.

Just the idea of connecting starts bringing together resources that you weren’t aware were out there waiting to be called upon.  That’s where faith comes in.  Knowing what you don’t know.  Then, before you know it, you reach out to accept help with building this bridge and the new perspective looking back at your side changes immediately.  Ahhh…  Know THAT makes sense.  From that point you can see the rest of the bridge coming into existence and all the other people and communication you are helping for the rest of the community, because NO ONE wanted to go there first or alone.  THAT’s called LEADERSHIP.  Take a big breath and know that the universe has already gone ahead and pre-wired the path for you.  For all you know there the power grid is underneath just ready to be turned on to light the way for both sides to meet in between.

It’s a network in between the spaces that was just waiting to be noticed and fulfilled.  Get it.  FULL-FILLED.  Growing and stretching out works for both your body, heart and mind.  Yet focusing on this one bridge takes intention, patience and love. Meeting half way is a great place.  Decorate the bridge.  String it with loving lights. Add flowers, trees and lush plants for shade. Play music.  Ring Bells. Hit the switch and turn it ON.  See what happens next as for all you know, there are all sorts of connections about to be made – which all lead to your wellness and happyness.

When I was sick, I used CaringBridge.org to create a bridge of knowledge and communication for all the friends I’d collected throughout my life from all over the globe giving my everyone a sense of peace that I was taking care of myself and the world was taking care of me.  I even had a sorority sister later tell me that she never contacted me during my cancer therapy because she kept up with my blog and saw that I was totally fine doing my thang.  Just like building a bridge, people and resources will show up that you may or may not need at the time.  That’s all good.  Those people return and ultimately share news of your new bridge and can send others that need to see what you’ve done for themselves.  And those people for me, are those recently diagnosed with breast cancer all the way to those in survivorship looking for ways to advocate for others.  There is a rainbow of opportunities and information available throughout the entire process and everyone needs something a little different for their pathway to healing.

If you or someone you know has been recently diagnosed with cancer please share my contact information with them or send me their information so I can reach out to them.  I am available any time, any where.  713-232-9796 SandyMCastillo@gmail.com

7;3 Friends + Family = FRAMILY for Wellness+Healing #Framily

As we continue in the Community Pathway, this one will become very apparent as you continue engaging with the community, growing in your happyness and wellness.  Yes, it’s exactly as it sounds.  Your friends as well as your family will start to create a tribe of people that are your continued connection to the community.

Just think about it for a moment.  Who do you talk to every morning?  Check your phone and who is in your recent text messages?  Who do you make plans with for trips, retreats, holidays and special events?

Your family will always be your family and some of them will automatically be in alignment with your intentions for health and wellness and so won’t – and that’s OK!  Remember, you can’t choose your family, but you can choose your friends.  Choose wisely!

For example, when I spent a year in Geneva with my ex husband, and it was the last year we were together, I yearned for my family.  Also because I was completely disconnected from my country, my people, my community, everything.  Actually, at the time, and I know better now, I was following my husband who wanted to leave our country and be with someone else.  If only I had known earlier, I would NOT have left.  But hind sight is always clearer… So for me, that year I spent meeting new people and making all sorts of new friends around activities like scrapbooking (Yes, I used to teach at the time!) and traveling and of course, chocolate and visiting swiss chocolate making places.  Oh, the fun!

So, when we started the divorce, I had exactly three months to find a job, since I was an American and my ex husband was German, or I had to go back to the states.  At first, I wanted to stay and tried everything possible to get a job until one day I just knew that I had to leave.  It was a big smack in the face but it was the only way to move forward and so I put my dog on the next flight and then I got a ticket on the same flight.  First of all moving to Europe is a massive undertaking, so after a year moving home, was a snap.  Everything fell into place, I gave away all the plants, stored all my furnishings, packed lots of clothes and my computer and got on a plane.  My mother and my cousin were there to greet me and I was a complete MESS.  So, I know what it’s like to create a Framily over and over again since I’ve been in so many different places over my lifetime.  I even had to do this when I was recruited to work in Silicon Valley after college and it turned out to be one of the best times of my life, and also where I met my ex husband.  So, it’s fitting that I came back home, back to ZERO.

Even now, as I continue to share, teach, advocate and experience so much healing I continue to meet amazing people and through Facebook, and social media my own tribe continues to form with so many outlets for my work and play.

Take a look around you and who to do you trust?  Who do you love?  Who makes you laugh?  Who do you want to spend time with?  And know that you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be in life when you have gratitude for everything little thing around you and bless the space you call home.

7:2 Share YOUR Story for Wellness+Healing #fliptheswitch

As you continue to engage within your community through activities, and events, you will gravitate towards sharing your OWN story with others who really want to hear about it.  I’ve found that when ever I exit my cave, there are so many people there to support me!  Sharing your own story can get to the people that really NEED to hear what you have to say through Social Media.  Open a Facebook account, get a twitter handle, post a photo on Instagram, but share, Share, SHARE your life with others.  You are your own brand and everything you do shares a bit of information about you to others.  You are already being yourself, so sharing is nothing to fear.  You get to control just HOW Much you share and that is totally up to how you feel.  Play with it.  Try it out.  Here are my suggestions:

Facebook – Is a great tool to help you connect with those that you know and their friends.  These connections can help you grow by finding a job, roommate or even a date!  Facebook has so many communities to join and then follow up on their events and then GO to one and meet everyone.  You can even create a business page or community so that information about your offerings can go directly to the people who are interested and not to everyone from your home page.  For instance, I have an Author Page where I post links to this blog, my web site and even special events hosted around town featuring my voice.  So your home page has all of your family and friends and extended family and friends, but then I also have a group page for my families family reunions so that everyone can see what’s going on.  Facebook is a great tool to also promote your business and the metrics are astounding for as little as $5 a day.  You can define who should see your event or post and then FB tracks when they click through to your web site or event.

LinkedIn – Is for your professional life.  It is really nice.  I’ve gone through different changes within my career and every time I make sure start with changing my profile on LinkedIn.  It’s seen by everyone and there you can link to colleagues to grow your network.  So when there is someone or some place you want to visit or learn about,  you can see who knows who at that company or business that you could connect with instantly.  Plus, you can request online recommendations so that as people look at your profile, they can read about you from other credible sources.  It is your living breathing resume and career history.  I love that they’ve added the blog feature so you can share a blog about something professional from your career for others to read.

Your Own Web Site – I’ve had one for as far as I can remember.  I’ve been blogging and writing and speaking and sharing all my life.  For me, it just keeps all my images, ideas, events and links together in one nice home.  I would suggest that you purchase the domain name for your own name and use it from now on rather than purchasing as sorts of neeto web site names, unless you have a business name to use.  I use GoDaddy for my domain name purchase and then downloads WordPress for free and it’s easy enough for me to use at this point.  It’s fast and simple and there is a tech support at GoDaddy that can help out with almost any issues.

Mobile – Use the phone in your hand to connect to all these great social media outlets and then take a photo and share it with your friends!  I remember when I worked in Santa Clara out of college for SONY and got to see one of the first High Definition TVs and it was like looking out a car window at the grand canyon, it was so lifelike!  But it was also a teeny little tv screen on a large boxy base.  Isn’t technology amazing!  I adore TODAY.

Flip the Switch – Is when you take an old worn out story that is sad and demented and turn it on it’s head!  Once you start seeing things differently, your stories will start to sound differently and essentially you will start to think about how it served you in some way and then the story will start to change.  Flipping the switch is when the story now empowers you and you are proud of your work and the courage it took to overcome the obstacle.  THAT’s When it’s time to SHARE what you’ve learned.