#SelfLoveTrumpsHaters Three Steps to Access Inner Happyness NOW!

The Key to Happyness starts with Self Love and there are Three Steps to Accessing Your Inner Happyness Now:

  1. Whatever You Focus On Grows.  This is a proven fact because as you focus on one thing, your energy wants to expand and so the thing grows.  Be it your bank account or creativity, if you focus on one thing, you are in fact giving it your attention and that leads to your ever expanding energy.
    1. The Key is to Focus on all the things that you truly love!  Focus on the things that you are excited about, people that make you feel good, jobs that bring together teams that feel like magic, or the one FB post that makes you smile.  Picking and choosing means you have to discern between what you really want to bring forth your inner happyness.  This includes news stories and other peoples opinions.  You have always had the choice to choose happyness every moment.
      1. For me, I choose to focus on great things all the time.  I even use my favorite silverware from France, and favorite tea cup from Japan almost every day and I even took them with me on my 8month roadtrip last year that included to Burning Man.  We all came home safe and sound, but I wanted to take some items on my trip since I would be waking up at so many places, but would always be reminded and sometimes even comforted by my favorite items. The same holds true for everything else I choose to have around me.
  2. The Universe Always Provides.  While experiencing my first Burning Man, this was the common mantra and it was true because there were 80K people who consciously chose to be in the desert living a life of non-judgment and offering love in the form of food, or classes or hugs, etc.  The same holds true for life outside of the Burn when you truly need something and can’t get out of your way.  Each one of us affects our surroundings and the Universe always provides us with what we need at that given moment, even if you didn’t think you wanted the thing or set of circumstances that shows up!
    1. The clearer you are about following your heart and living your own dream, the easier it is for the Universe to show up and give you exactly what you ordered.  It’s when you aren’t sure of what it is you truly want that you get conflicting responses and even, sometimes, fired!
      1. For me, I kept saying that I was going to Burning Man, but on my road trip I had no idea how to get there or where to get a ticket.  I reached out to a friend for help and it was at the tail end of our conversation that she offered to get a ticket for me, and the rest is history.  I found a ride to the burn, and even a camp to join and within weeks I was there loving every minute of it.  I had to witness a community without judgement and love offerings that had nothing to do with bartering.  It was pure love. I’d secretly be wishing for ice cream and then someone would come up and say, Do you want some Ice Cream and hand us all our own bowl.  My personal mantra before I went to Burning Man was, “Everyday is Christmas” because I am constantly surprised and elated over moments during my day with pure joy.  Christmas doesn’t come once a year, it’s every single day.
  3. Self Love Starts With You.  You are enough.  Even if you have a large family, or an only child, or have children yourself, or are a caretaker for someone sick, you must take care of you first.  This is no one else’s responsibility but your own. You must do your own work, even if you hire a coach.  You can’t take care of anyone else until you show up first and foremost for yourself.  If you don’t, you will start to repel people, places, synchronistic situations and even love because the universe is is always providing or giving you another situation in which to learn from.
    1. Stop rehashing the past, leave it where it belongs and decide to start anew now.  It’s as easy as that because your mind will do whatever you tell it to.  But first, you have to focus on the deep inner thoughts coming from your gut or intuition.  Stop yelling over all the noise going on inside, wondering why it’s not working.  Breathe, meditate, take a break and step into nature, our ultimate teacher.  Remember, when in a situation where you need oxygen, you must first put on your own mask first before you can start helping anyone else.
      1. For me, fresh out of an international divorce, France gave me three months to find a job or get the hell out of their country, so I ended up back in Houston and in my parents’ guest room right before my birthday.  I hated everyone and everything until I was diagnosed with breast cancer and that’s when I chose life for my self.  Cancer actually saved my life.  At that moment I didn’t care about anyone or anything but doing what I needed to do to finish treatment, and here I am today.  Happyer than ever!

Sandy Castillo is an Intuitive Life Coach focused on those affected by emotional catastrophic incidents including cancer, divorce and relocating.  She has been teaching evidence-based healing modalities for more than thirty-one years and combined with her love of personal advocacy, she offers private and group coaching both in person and remote towards a world with more laughter and happyness overcoming dis-ease and cancer. She is also a speaker and writer living in Houston, Texas.